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today i wasn't there.

Today it hit me.
I had to call into my girls doctors appointment. I have been at every single appointment. I fought their fights when they had no voice. I have taken notes, asked the questions, I have been there.
And today I wasnt.
As soon as I hung up the phone I burst into tears.
Being a mom is effing hard.
If you are a stay at home mom you are shamed for not working. I'f you are a working mom you are shamed for not being home. There is not happy medium.
Motherhood is hard no matter what your situation. No matter how active a mother you are, you will miss something. It's the weight we let that guilt have, that will impact us going forward.
Tonight as I reflect, I know that missing one appointment doesnt define me as a mom or a person. It's how i raise them that matters.
It's how they act when i am not around.
So tonight as you lay your head down, remind yourself, we all do the best we can with what we have, and that is enough. And so are you.

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